SHOW NOTES – Q&A 8, Season 1
Max writes: “I am so enjoying your podcast and I love that you and Carol are drawing the distinction between what can be the really idealistic realm of motivation and self improvement and the incremental reality of living life day to day. I’m not sure that I have a punchy one line question, but something I have been thinking a lot about lately is the decision to have or not have children, and the stigma and angst for women who fall on either side of that choice, or for whom it is eliminated completely by health circumstances. I’d be curious to hear about your choice to have kids, and it seems at different stages in your lives, and how that changed things for you. Did it live up to your expectations? What happened that you didn’t expect? What was the best and the worst part? As you may or may not know, as a pro athlete and artist, I have made a very conscious decision not to have kids. I don’t think my lifestyle can physically accommodate pregnancy, nor do I think that psychologically or financially I’ll ever be able to provide for a child in the way I would want to. I’m in a relationship- a new one- with a guy that’s really perfect for me, except he’s sure that he wants kids. Is it fair to continue to see him knowing that I can never fulfill that desire? It doesn’t seem like an area where one can find compromise- what do you think?”
Carolyn says:
- She thought having a baby could save a rocky relationship.
- You have to be mature to have kids, if you aren’t ready you may make mistakes you’ll regret for a lifetime.
- Being a mother can be very isolating.
- Kids have their own personalities from day one – it’s so fulfilling to nurture their true selves.
Becca says:
- She became open to having children after meeting the “right” person.
- Becoming a parent gave her a ton of insight into her relationship with her own parents.
- The worst part is being unreasonably tired, the best is LIVING FOREVER.
- Being honest about what you want from the onset is the only way to build a firm foundation.
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See you next week for a really exciting Episode 9 on Focus
xoxo Carolyn and Becca
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