When you connect with someone immediately you can feel like you trust them completely, but do you REALLY know who they are? The Panty Kickers dig into immediate connections, and how to not let a steamy or strong connection derail you from finding viable long term love.
Carolyn says:
- How well do you really know them? 24 hours, 48 hours total? Beware of thinking, “they usually do this,” or “they never do that”, when you really don’t know someone well.
- When someone tells you who they are, believe them. If someone you’re dating tells you something that puts you off, pay attention!
- Even though it’s difficult to find someone you connect with, it’s not THAT hard. To think that there is only one person you will connect with is silly. You’ll feel those feelings again and hopefully with someone less problematic.
Becca says:
- Think of your eventual partnership as a business partnership as well as a romantic one.
- Follow your gut, whenever I check in with people who have gotten out of serious relationships after any amount of time they usually admit that they knew early on something was not right and they stuck with it. Your body will tell you, just like my body has always felt peaceful and at home with Emile.
- Seek guidance: don’t be afraid to talk candidly with friends, a therapist or your family members about your concerns. Sometimes, they may see something in your relationship that you cant because the connection can blind you. With my past bad ex, everyone I knew was perplexed by the pairing. I knew what I was feeling, but they all saw what was really going on (and tried to tell me!)
Homework: HOLIDAY CHEER ALERT!! Go out of your way to thank someone in your life who you had an immediate connection to and who has made a positive impact on you as a human.
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See you next week for Robyn’s Q&A: “Dear panty kickers, do you think sex is an exchange of energy?”, and for our next full length episode: Can You Change Someone?
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